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Point One - the Perfectionist
Ones are a body-based
type with an emphasis on personal integrity and self control.
Their attention goes toward seeing and correcting error, and
doing the right thing. They are known for their honesty, dependability,
and common sense. Ones are very responsible, so much so that
they can resent other people who don't take things as seriously
as they do. They have very high standards and tend to see things
in black and white, right and wrong. It's easy for them to be
critical, and they can be very hard on themselves as well as
others. Their need to be right all the time is very hard work.
They are idealistic and will work hard to make things better,
which often puts them in the role of social reformer. Learning
to accept their imperfections and tolerate other people's points
of view are crucial elements of growth.
Strengths: Honest, responsible, improvement-oriented.
Problems: Resentful, non-adaptable, and overly critical.
Speaking style: Precise and detail-oriented, with a tendency
to sermonize or preach.
Lower emotional habit: Resentment, which comes from getting
angry a lot but holding it in.
Higher emotion: Serenity, which comes with letting go
of anger about the way things are and accepting imperfection.
Psychological defenses: Ones use the defense mechanism
of reaction formation to avoid their anger (and other feelings)
and maintain the self image of being "right." (Reaction
formation is feeling one thing and then doing the opposite, such
as feeling resentful but acting nice).
Somatic patterns: As body-based types, Ones usually are
grounded and practical, good at the tasks of daily life. They
tend to be very self controlled which can lead to physical rigidity
and tension, particularly in the jaw, neck, and shoulders. The
face can take on an expression of angry judgment or resentful
martyrdom.
Famous people: Hilary Clinton, Nelson Mandela, Pope John
Paul, Barry Goldwater, Ralph Nader, George McGovern, William
F. Buckley, Colin Powell, Margaret Thatcher, · Julie Andrews,
Charlton Heston, Miss Manners, Gregory Peck, Emma Thompson ·
Martin Luther, Confucius, Mary Baker Eddy, St. Ignatius, Mark
Twain, Charles Dickens, Alexander Solzhenitsyn.
Tips for relating to
Ones:
To create rapport: Respect their integrity and take
things seriously.
Try to avoid: Making agreements that you may not keep;
neglecting proper procedures or good manners.
Join them: In seeing how things can be improved.
To handle conflict: Ask them to be direct with their anger
and get past their resentment; admit your mistakes; speak with
personal conviction and authority. Challenge them to see more
than one right way.
To support their growth: Help them be less critical of
themselves and more accepting of their mistakes and imperfections;
ask them to mediate their judgement with fairness and forgiveness;
remind them to share responsibility with others; encourage them
to have fun.
Copyright ©2004 Peter O'Hanrahan